People consume more and more psychoactive substances like alcohol as their craving for drug-induced happiness/escape grows. An increasing number of people with problematic alcohol consumption is directly related to increasing alcohol consumption. When alcohol consumption or drug use leads to impairments in physical, social or occupational functioning, it usually shows that one depends on alcohol.
We all know people who do not comprehend the serious consequences of excessive drinking or drug abuse.
Motivation enhancement therapy is presented here as a basic concept. Even though a professional may administer MET in a more thorough manner, a simplified form can be used by anyone to help their loved one discover the source of their drinking problem. A significant first step in overcoming addiction and finding help is to develop a motivation to quit. Even if one continues to drink alcohol, these principles, if applied consistently over a few weeks, can help one develop awareness of one’s habits and their consequences.
The most important rule – No advice, no threats, no punishment, and no humiliation. You might just damage your relationship. There is always a new beginning, no matter what your story has been!
Taking care of yourself is necessary before you can help others.
Anger, resentment, and burnout might affect you. Those who love and care for those addicted to alcohol and other substances often feel helpless. Sometimes we direct our anger at someone who is stuck with substance abuse. Taking a step back and tending to your own needs first is essential before you can help someone with an addiction. Try to get in touch with supportive friends and family, eat the right foods, and get enough sleep. If you cannot handle the distress on your own, seek professional help.
Below are some suggestions on how to assist your loved one.
In order to enhance motivation, we should follow the following principles. The purpose of motivation enhancement is to encourage “change talk”. Basically, change talk is communication that implies a desire to “change” rather than remain the same. In any conversation that involves substance abuse, it is important to keep these principles in mind. The goal is to build motivation for them to quit, not to prove that they are wrong.
Put yourself in the shoes of the person you wish to help – Try to be empathetic and respectful. Listen patiently and without interrupting. Direct statements and commands should not be given.
Regard – Let your loved one know you hold them in high regard. They are too valuable to be insulted. Intoxicated people can do a lot more than you think. Express yourself, but make sure not to seem judgmental.
You are not trying to prove that your patient has an illness by engaging in argumentation. Arguments and confrontations should be avoided.
Don’t go head-on with problems, roll with them from the side. People who want to change usually offer solutions. You should back off from your loved one if you see them getting defensive. I’ll try that conversation later.
If, for instance, your partner is in denial about his problems rather than confronting them directly. You might find a non-conflictual approach to this if you step back and think about it. “I don’t have a problem”, says the husband. Instead of saying “you absolutely have a problem”, the wife might ask “why do you think you don’t have a problem?”This builds trust and conversation.
Developing discrepancy.Sometimes it is necessary to raise someone’s awareness so that they discover that their beliefs and actions are contradictory. Remind them of the good times.
Try pointing out to a patient that they have control over their drinking, while keeping a watchful eye. Encourage optimism and hope. Self-efficacy supports defensive coping strategies, like denial and rationalisation. Responsibility is also promoted.
Motivate yourself to change.
Understand cognitive dissonance and how to work with it. If beliefs and acts are contradictory, either belief or act will change in order to be congruent. My son’s tuition fee, which I spent on alcohol, illustrates how I am not a responsible father. For many, the first step toward change realises such disparate thoughts and actions.
In an empathetic, understanding, non-accusatory manner, point out the negative effects of alcohol abuse, such as increased time and money, memory problems, relationship issues, medical issues, and work problems. “Elicit self-motivational statements by asking “what has it cost you?”
Establishing a drink diary, in which costs, effects, and losses in terms of health, employment, or social issues are recorded, is a great way to manifest a discrepancy. Offer to set up an appointment with a mental health professional.